Musnad Ahmad Hadith 5720

Nuaim bin Nahham (may Allah be pleased with him), "whom the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave the title of Salih," says that Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) requested his father to send a marriage proposal for him to the daughter of Salih. Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "She has orphaned nephews; they will not prefer us over them." Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) then went to his uncle Zaid bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) and asked him to send the marriage proposal as well. So Zaid (may Allah be pleased with him) himself went to Salih (may Allah be pleased with him) and said, "Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) has sent me to you with a marriage proposal for your daughter." Salih (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "My orphaned nephews are present; I cannot lower my own flesh and raise yours. I make you a witness that I have married this girl to such-and-such person." The girl's mother wanted to marry her to Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both). She went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, "O Messenger of Allah! Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) had asked for my daughter's hand, but her father married her to his orphaned nephew under his care and did not even consult me." The Prophet (peace be upon him) called Salih and said, "Did you arrange your daughter's marriage without consulting your wife?" He replied, "Yes, that is what happened." The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Consult women regarding themselves, even if they are virgins." Salih (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "I did this only because the dowry that Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) would give her, I already have that much of his wealth with me (I am indebted to him, so I did not wish to give my daughter in marriage to him in this situation)."